Over the last couple of days, I seen the reports of the 600# Virgin regaining 400# that he lost. It’s been on my mind and I decided to write about when real long-term changes started happening for me and how they happened.
The mis-leading thing about all of these tv specials about weight-loss don’t really tell you about when everything is over. I know I’ve seen one of the Biggest Loser’s, the pizza guy from up North gained all of his weight back.
In a perfect world, every person could go to a fitness camp, have world-class trainers and chef’s preparing perfect food.
But in reality we have lives that aren’t put on hold because we decide we want to get healthy. It can be done but it won’t be without sacrifice.
One of the hardest realizations I had to come to was that there were people who have always known me and they just weren’t willing to accept the person I was becoming.
Whether they realize what they are doing or not, there will be the tempting lunch invitations, happy hour invites, your favorite cookies or candies showing up etc.
It took awhile for me to realize that my change was making people around me uncomfortable. Change is hard. Not just for you, but for those who know the old you. Some want to stay in the old comfortable place they’ve always been and they’d like to keep you there with them.
Change takes courage. You don’t have to be mean or rude, just say “thanks for the invite, but I can’t make it”. After the first decline it will get easier.
You may lose a friend or two over it, but remember there ARE like-minded people out there who want to socialize with other fit people.
One of my fondest memories was this past fall while watching a college championship game with a group of people who I had just met from a local gym. Every single dish was healthy and tasted great! I felt as if I were in a safety zone.
One of my clients is a young 24-year-old professional. One of her greatest obstacles is hanging with her friends. We plan her workouts and weekly nutrition goals around her social schedule so her free meals fall on the day of the event she has scheduled. It allows her to enjoy life without feeling restricted.
Being fit isn’t about giving up everything you enjoy and feeling miserable. It’s about having the courage to make the choices day in and day out to be better today than you were yesterday FOR YOURSELF not for anyone else.