Posts Tagged ‘weight loss

25
Jan
14

Moving Past That Place

Twice this week I’ve had conversations with women who find themselves at a crossroads.  It’s the crossroads to long-term change.  It’s a frightening place to be.

To the left is everything you know, comfort, habit, status quo, the norm, the place you’ve known for what could be your whole life, failures, the past.

To the right is belief, discomfort, truth, health, happiness, knowledge, pressure, fear of the unknown, trials, failures (yes you have failures on both roads), wisdom, desire, change, gratitude.

I know this crossroads all too well.  In the spring and summer of 2010 I stood at the very same crossroads.  I had just won the Body-for-Life challenge which had been a goal for 9 years. Everyone thought I had it all figured out. What people around me didn’t know, was what was happening on the inside. Even my best friends had no idea.

I was terrified. Afraid I’d back slide back to the 328# person I used to be. I was terrified I would fail again. I was terrified that I was a fake. I was afraid I didn’t believe in myself as much as others believed in me. I was afraid of the future.

Looking back on that crossroads now it seems silly. But at that time the fear was very real, very much a part of my daily life.

In order to overcome that fear, I had to put some daily habits in place. Below are the most important ones listed in the order of importance for me.

  • No Negative Self-Talk. EVER
  • Write down 3 things I’m grateful for daily
  • Write down 3 positive affirmations about my body daily
  • Get the fear out of your head

These things may look trivial to some, but to a person who doesn’t believe in themselves, I believe these things are a game changer.  Let me elaborate.

  • No Negative Self-Talk. EVER

Negative self-talk is the single most detrimental habit a person can develop.  Negative self-talk comes up when you look in the mirror, when you are handling your personal finances, when you go to work, when you parent your children, in your marriage.  It’s everywhere. SHUT. IT. DOWN. You are worthy of greatness, no-one, not even yourself should tell you otherwise.

  • Write down 3 things you’re grateful for

Gratitude helps you realize in the big scheme of things you’ve got it really good. Be grateful you’re healthy and not fighting for your life. Be grateful you have a roof over your head. If you are reading this, be grateful for the very device allowing you to see this, even if it’s a loaner. Be grateful for the simplest things in your life. Once you remove your “woe is me” tunnel vision, you get to fully see what you have to be grateful for.

  • Write down 3 positive affirmations about my body daily

I don’t mean the same things every day.  Each day find 3 things you love about your body.  They may or may not have a thing to do with your physical appearance.  I love my eyes because they allow me to see things.  I love my strong and powerful legs that allow me to move heavy things. I love my ears because they allow me to hear beautiful music.

  • Get the fear out of your head

If you are afraid of something talk about it with a trusted friend, a person who’s walked this path before you, or if nothing else, write your fear down in a journal.  What I found over time was the fear was much, much greater in my head than it ever was out in the open.  I’ve written letters to people and then burned them (very healing). I have sobbed on my friend’s shoulder when faced with the realization I wasn’t going to reach a goal I set. Getting your fear of failure out of you mind clears the space so that it can be filled to the brim with positive and grateful thinking.

All of the above may seem trivial, but if you are at the crossroads of significant weight loss, throw these habits in to play and see if you don’t find some peace from the constant fear of back-sliding.

Want it more than afraid of it

22
Jan
14

Strong Legs

It seems like all I write about lately is the legs.  Well mostly anyway.  I’ve neglected to push my legs at the same level I’ve pushed my upper body, so now I’m playing catch up.  I’ve used every excuse under the sun for the past four years as my excuse for not being more goal oriented on these strong legs.

As most of my readers know I’ve lost a lot of weight, with the losses, I’ve gained some unflattering skin issues on these strong legs.  THAT has been my number one excuse for not being overly concerned with them.  The whole “I’ll never wear shorts again” excuse.

Well as you can tell I’m sucking it up and getting busy changing these strong legs into even stronger legs.  The lower body contains the largest muscles in the whole body.  The more I work them, the more dense with muscle both the legs and glutes will become.  I will burn more calories as well, like a big old furnace.  I can’t wait.

I don’t expect them to be perfect because that would certainly be unrealistic.  I’m all too familiar with unrealistic expectations, they set you up for failure.  All I will say is that I have before pictures and I’m making videos along the way of this journey.  I will stay the course and you guys will get sick of the updates.  Until then I’ll keep sharing what I’m doing and you guys can cheer me on.

 

21
Jan
14

Whew Those Glutes

My focus this year is legs and glutes.  Much more focus than last year.  Not just heavy lifting but attention to detail with hamstrings and hip flexors as well. I like reading a lot. Anything to do with muscle activation and building I’ll read it. One thing I used to assume was that if I squat enough I didn’t need to work glutes separately.  After two years of little change in my butt and the back of my legs it’s past time to step-up my backside.  I began doing 3 sets of 25 body weight Glute Bridges every day since Friday.  Wow. Talk about muscle awareness.  I find it interesting how muscle can somehow become inactive, perhaps disengaged because other muscles start overcompensating.

My glutes are tender today, that’s a good thing.  That tells me the work I’m doing is needed and it is working.

As most of my readers know I’ve started doing random videos of my workouts. I’ve learned a lot about my form and things I need to correct.  In example I did 65# front rack position barbell walking lunges. Watching the video below I realized I turn my toes in terribly during these sets, I don’t normally turn my toes in doing walking lunges.  Correcting it should be as simple as reducing the weight and doing higher reps.

Today’s Workout:

3 Sets x 25 reps Glute Raises Body Weight 
3 Sets x 20 reps 65# Hip Thrust
3 Sets x 8 reps 65# Walking Lunges
5 Sets x 10 35# Back Extensions
5 Sets x 10 reps Reverse Hypers
 

Lunges, Back Ext, Reverse Hypers

 

14
Jan
14

Torn Between Two Loves

Here lately I’ve been struggling.  No not with food, that’s dialed in quite nicely actually.  I’m torn.  Torn between my love of bodybuilding and my love of barbell building.  When I do one with serious focus, I feel like I’m cheating on the other.  It sounds so silly but really it’s not.

Every morning I get up at 4am.  Spend about 15 minutes getting ready to head out to the gym.  If I do not have an iron clad plan of what I’m going to do in a given workout, I will falter.  Monday and Friday are hard-core bodybuilding lifting days because I have much more time.  Tuesday, Wednesday, and Thursday, I teach at 5:30am class so that only gives me about 30 solid working minutes after I’ve warmed up.  Saturday or Sunday when I’m afforded the time, I’ll sneak in another good workout and it rotates between barbell and body building.  Here lately, I’ve decided to use those 3 shorter training times for barbell work.  Man I love it.

I’m reminded every time I pick up the bar that I’m strong, but the bar can be stronger.  I’m also reminded that my training over these past few years has really changed my functional fitness and ability level. At almost 51 years old I can do things I wouldn’t have dreamed of doing in my 30’s.

I read an article the other day that really struck home for me.  It talked about the fact there are no studies showing eating healthy and exercising will prolong your years.  Then it went on to talk about the quality of your life with strength training versus quality of life with out it.  I already knew this, but it was quite gratifying to read it in black and white.  I don’t care how long I have left, I just want that time to be spent as fit as I can possibly be.

So more motivation to lift!  And more motivation to stop trying to choose between the two disciplines.  I fully believe they compliment each other.  The video below in particular reminds me of my functional ability.  My form isn’t perfect, but my technique is improving with practice.  If you have any doubts about whether weight training is for you, at minimum look into it.  It will make you sore some days, those days will simply remind you that you are growing in your fitness.  I look forward to being the little old lady in the corner lifting.  Absolutely.

08
Jan
14

Inspired By Others

Yesterday while reading Lifting My Spirits FB page I was greatly inspired by her recent workout video posts.  She has allowed folks access into her workouts via video and I just thought that was the greatest thing.  When you are doing this fitness thing for good, as in like brushing your teeth, there are always times you can use a little motivation.  I’m nowhere near as good as she is with this whole video thing, but today, I thought I’d try it.  I have a lot to learn about camera placement etc., and practice will remedy that.  And again a shout out to Lifting My Spirits for being such a great mentor and example for all of us.

When I looked at this video I thought to myself “man you’re getting old” and then the lifter in me said “but you’re still going and will continue to do so”.

Before you get all stirred up about my form, please keep in mind this was a short workout that began at 4:45am.  I didn’t have a lot of time to warm up and it shows.  There are also flaws in my technique and there is nothing better than a video to show you exactly what you need to work on to improve technique.  So there it is.  For the sake of time, I’ve edited out the rest periods for the most part.

A shout out to my friend Roxanne Perkins for helping tutor me on the art of video editing.

Location: CrossFit Madison

Music by Lenny Kravitz

Grunts and groans by yours truly!  🙂

Squat Cleans 2 reps every minute on the minute 85#

07
Jan
14

Workout #2 YOTL 2014

After being out of town and dealing with a spousal unit with food poisoning I managed to make it to the gym on my lunch hour.  It was a quick, lighter weight workout. Not bad for a quickie during lunch.  No complaints here, only accountability.  I also want to make clear the only workouts being posted under this title are leg workouts.  I suppose I should start a separate thread for all other workouts.  🙂

Walking Lunges Wide Step

3 sets x 15 reps
 
Back Squat
45# x 10 reps
65# x 5 reps
85# x 5 reps
45# x 10 reps
 
Seated Leg Press
110# x 10 reps x 4 sets
 
Seated Leg Ext.
60# x 15 reps x 5 sets
 
Walking Lunges Wide Step
2 sets x 15 reps
 
06
Jan
14

Another Round With Patience

Something clicked for me this morning and reminded me of a topic I wanted to talk about.  Long term weight loss comes with a price tag labeled with patience.  No matter how long I’ve been working out, I still mentally want more faster. I also know I’m not the only one.

There have been times when I trained with an almost frantic pace.  A pace no doubt, that would have surely have led to injury if I had stayed on that pace.

There have been times I’ve tightened up my food intake to unreasonable levels truly believing that less is more.  I was wrong.

The thing I’ve lacked the most in my journey has always been patience.  Patience to allow myself to get good at this whole fitness and nutrition thing.  Patience with my own expectation regarding my results.  This stuff doesn’t happen over night.

I consider those who get on the fitness band wagon without massive weight to lose to be a an advantage for a couple of reasons.  I might get a little hate mail for this, but I do.  To have the physique that doesn’t have the wear and tear of major weight loss is a gift that so many take for granted. Instead of worrying about losing all the time, you get to focus more on making positive gains.  It’s more of a one way street.

I screwed up, yes I did, for not taking responsibility sooner.  For not stopping that locomotive I was on.  That being said I wouldn’t be literally half the person I used to be if I hadn’t gone through what I’ve been through.  This my friends is where patience comes in to play.

Everyone I meet who wants to change, they want it over night, ok to be fair, they want it in a week or two, some even make it a month before they freak out because they are dramatically changed and still working their butts off.

They want change that takes years to happen in just a few months.  If they aren’t seeing change, they want to change this or that because what they are doing isn’t working fast enough.  I’ve derailed myself more times than I care to admit because I kept searching for the better, faster way of getting results.  The one thing that I only recently got better at was patience.

It was only when I stop waffling all over creation and starting focusing on what I was doing right and doing just enough more of it to make even better progress.

I wanted my shoulders to look better, it was only after I made the effort to add a bit more focused attention to my shoulders did they respond.  Does that mean I worked shoulders every other day, no.  I it means I worked them one extra workout per week.

I wanted to get leaner, does that mean I ate less?  No, actually I started tracking my caloric output vs. my input a little more thoroughly.  Does that mean I became obsessed about it?  No, I came to the realization that my oldest and by far my worst “dieter, less is more” habit was still alive an well.  It was only when I logged it and looked at it staring me back in the face that I knew I had to make some changes.  Small changes, like adding a more effective carb source post workout and adding a bit more fat during the rest of my meals.  I feel better, I can lift more.

Is what is working for me what you should be doing?  No, not necessarily.  Every human body is different.  If you aren’t writing down or logging what you are doing, how do you know if you are making positive or negative gains?  Well if negative your pants will be tighter.  If positive?  That’s a different story.  You’ll come to a point when you don’t want your pants to get smaller, but you want your body composition to change.  Without photos, measurements, workout, data, and a nutritional log, you’ve got very little to trouble shoot with.  Your first instincts are to eat less and work harder, when just the opposite is in order.

So before you go changing things, are you doing the logging, the information gathering that you need to identify change when it is happening?  If not, start there.  Patience, persistence, and consistency.  Keep moving forward!

journal leather

 

 

31
Dec
13

A New Year 2014

NO! This is not a blog about New Year’s Resolutions.

As I write this post another year is coming to a close.  Being the eternal optimist, I tend to see only the best when I look back.  When I think back on it, I realize how much I’ve accomplished.  I’ve become a successful business owner.  I’ve managed to work two jobs and keep my wits and humor about me.  I kept up with all of my workouts, even when I didn’t have time to sit down and post a blog about what I was doing.

The one thing that wasn’t stellar the entire year was my writing.  I missed it, I didn’t realize how much until I started really posting again.  It seems kind of silly actually.  Me, in my little world, writing things for others to read.  I hardly feel qualified to write.  I do it anyway.  I’m sure there are some folks out there who read my blogs and cringe at my less perfect grammar.  I try hard not to get so caught up in proper sentence structure and grammar but instead focus on content.

I want to continue to write in a way that keeps things real.  I’m a real human being with real challenges just like everyone else.  I want to share experiences and the vision of a almost 51 year old fitness junkie/body builder/CrossFit coach.

You see, I realized about a year and a half ago there are a lot of folks out there who are hungry for some success in this life.  Whether it be there own or someone else’s. It took me a while to announce myself as a “Successful Transformation” because I know better than most, in order to have a successful transformation, you gotta have a few years of maintenance under your belt.  This year marked the 3rd year in a row I could wear the same sized corduroy pants.  For a reformed yo-yo dieter and former obese person, this in of itself is a huge victory.  My focus this year has been mostly on building muscle and not gaining fat.  As I move in to 2014, it’s the year of legs.  My training will be full body, with extra focus on the legs.  I’ve created a category for posting all things related to this topic in one place.  I have before pictures and will keep them safe and sound until I’m ready to do side by side comparison photos.

A special thanks going out today to all of my readers, both new and far.  I’m overjoyed to see readers in the UK, Norway, Sweden, Germany, and Canada showing up on my stats page.  Thank you all so very much for taking time out of your busy worlds to visit mine!

Stay safe and Happy New Year!

Happy-New-Year-2014-5

30
Dec
13

Letting Go of Insecurity

I could write a book on the topic of insecurity. My own personal insecurity would take up 2/3 of the book.  At one point in my life I took myself so seriously, I was absolutely ZERO fun to be around. Little did I know at the time no one really paid that much attention, except me.

I was somewhat insecure in my earlier years before I got fat (I can say that insensitive word, I don’t have to be politically correct when I’m talking about myself in my own blog).

Once I got so fat, I was conscious of things I’d never noticed before.  Looks from people, some I could tell were literally looks of disbelief.  Others, looks of pity.  The worst was the look a saw looking back in the mirror and that was disgust.  Harsh, but truth.  I thought surely when I lost all the weight, I’d lose the insecurity with it.  But not so fast.

For a long time after I lost my weight I had serious fears about suddenly waking up and being back in that 328# body again.  This fear spiraled out into my food consumption as well.  I feared if I took a vacation or went off my overly strict food plan that I would never be able to regroup.  For people who have lost a lot of weight this is a true insecurity.  It’s a true fear that must be worked through.  I’ve dubbed it “Fat Head Syndrome” the inability to see real, positive self-image after significant weight-loss.

As is with losing the weight, gaining trust in self is also a process that takes time. Learning to let go of mistakes, fear, and the seeking of perfection, are huge milestones in long term weight loss.

For a while I used positive affirmations to help me through.  Training my brain to realize that I’m an athlete, not a dieter was one of the biggest steps to overcoming the obstacle.  Then came the realization that micro-managing an overly strict food plan wasn’t necessary.  I began to come to terms with the fact that if I focused on eating unprocessed and whole foods, I didn’t have to stress so much about every little detail.  All that being said, I get why people do it.

The beautiful thing is watching a person literally come out of the cocoon when they realize they really are becoming more fit, both physically and mentally.  I can see the relief in the eyes of a client once they come to believe it’s physically impossible to gain all of the weight back overnight.  They realize they do indeed have the power to control their own outcomes.  As a Coach it’s one of my favorite moments.

Coaching a client on getting out of their own way is one of the toughest parts of coaching.  It takes time and patience and the occasional proverbial kick in the pants.  And that’s why I love Coaching.

I’ve always loved the image below, borrowed from the internet, I truly believe there is an athlete in most everyone.  But it’s the rare individual who has the courage to step out of the shadows and embrace the greatness we are each born with.

fit in fat

 

26
Dec
13

Surviving the Crash and Burn

Today is the day after Christmas.  Today is the day after a lot of folks crash and burn. Crash and burn=totally fall off track with fitness and nutrition and spend weeks trying to recover.

Here is a quick list of what to do to help you get back on track.

  • Throw out the crap, guilt free, ALL of it
  • Drink water like it’s your job, it will help you rehydrate and cleanse your system
  • Forgive yourself
  • Stop talking about how bad you feel and how bad you suck, so you crashed and burned, move on
  • Stop putting off today, the reckoning day, until Monday, or January 1st or whichever day you feel you need to prepare for, start today, right now
  • Get a clean meal in to your system
  • Get what you need to prepare more clean meals
  • Start a list of goals for 2014
  • Get thee to the gym and move something heavy quickly
  • Rinse and repeat

Remember there isn’t a final countdown of food consumption before starting some new fad diet on January 1st.  Get your head right, get your house, apartment, desk, etc., cleaned out and replace any crap with clean staples and get a move on.  Consistent clean meals will help boost your MOJO as much as a good solid workout will.

And remember this….

Before 10-2000

Didn’t turn into this….

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Because I don’t know what the hell I’m talking about.  Now get on with it.