I could write a book on the topic of insecurity. My own personal insecurity would take up 2/3 of the book. At one point in my life I took myself so seriously, I was absolutely ZERO fun to be around. Little did I know at the time no one really paid that much attention, except me.
I was somewhat insecure in my earlier years before I got fat (I can say that insensitive word, I don’t have to be politically correct when I’m talking about myself in my own blog).
Once I got so fat, I was conscious of things I’d never noticed before. Looks from people, some I could tell were literally looks of disbelief. Others, looks of pity. The worst was the look a saw looking back in the mirror and that was disgust. Harsh, but truth. I thought surely when I lost all the weight, I’d lose the insecurity with it. But not so fast.
For a long time after I lost my weight I had serious fears about suddenly waking up and being back in that 328# body again. This fear spiraled out into my food consumption as well. I feared if I took a vacation or went off my overly strict food plan that I would never be able to regroup. For people who have lost a lot of weight this is a true insecurity. It’s a true fear that must be worked through. I’ve dubbed it “Fat Head Syndrome” the inability to see real, positive self-image after significant weight-loss.
As is with losing the weight, gaining trust in self is also a process that takes time. Learning to let go of mistakes, fear, and the seeking of perfection, are huge milestones in long term weight loss.
For a while I used positive affirmations to help me through. Training my brain to realize that I’m an athlete, not a dieter was one of the biggest steps to overcoming the obstacle. Then came the realization that micro-managing an overly strict food plan wasn’t necessary. I began to come to terms with the fact that if I focused on eating unprocessed and whole foods, I didn’t have to stress so much about every little detail. All that being said, I get why people do it.
The beautiful thing is watching a person literally come out of the cocoon when they realize they really are becoming more fit, both physically and mentally. I can see the relief in the eyes of a client once they come to believe it’s physically impossible to gain all of the weight back overnight. They realize they do indeed have the power to control their own outcomes. As a Coach it’s one of my favorite moments.
Coaching a client on getting out of their own way is one of the toughest parts of coaching. It takes time and patience and the occasional proverbial kick in the pants. And that’s why I love Coaching.
I’ve always loved the image below, borrowed from the internet, I truly believe there is an athlete in most everyone. But it’s the rare individual who has the courage to step out of the shadows and embrace the greatness we are each born with.
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