Posts Tagged ‘change



22
Aug
12

When The Obstacle is The Mind

I was having a conversation with a coworker this morning.  This girl has done an amazing job of losing about 40# over the last 4 months.  Ironically, she says to me this morning “I’d be happy if I never lost another pound”.  Maybe. 

Here is the question I ponder though…  why set self-imposed limits? It’s not about losing pounds, it is about losing insecurity and realizing just what you are capable of.  It’s about getting fit.

I’ve been there, I’ve been to the point of saying “I’d be happy if I never lost another pound” but then I found fitness. 

Fitness truly begins when scale watching ends.

Feeling healthy and strong far surpasses what it feels like to diet down to “thin”.  

My message is this, when weight loss begins you will inevitably put self-imposed mental limits on what you can accomplish. 

Mainly because you will fail to believe in all that you are capable of.  Set those thoughts behind and set measurable, obtainable goals. 

It may take you a lot longer than you initially think it will, but let me tell you this…the journey is so much more adventurous than you can imagine when you begin. 

Get out of your own way and get busy doing things you never dreamed you could.  The only obstacle is your mind.  

Who would have ever thought that this:

 

Could transform in to this:

And the beauty of this is that I’m just getting started on learning how to stop letting my mind become the obstacle. 

BELIEVE…

 

 

20
Aug
12

You Already Know What To Do

Recently, due to an unexpected financial hiccup I’ve had to make some decisions that I wasn’t really comfortable making.  As I pondered the whole “what now?” and “what should I do?” I picked up a book of motivational sayings and staring back at me from the page were these simple words. 

“You already know what to do.” 

Kind of hard to argue with the universe when something like that happens.

So although it’s not my first choice of things, I’ve sucked it up and made some financial changes that will lighten the burden slightly. 

Along with that decision came some melancholy of what I’ll be missing over the next few months.  

Then that good old gratitude and solid resolve kicked in full force.  This morning my feet hit the floor grateful for what really matters.  I’m healthy, I get to continue to workout, I get to continue to eat clean, wholesome food and I get to keep moving forward.

You see, you can’t always get what you want.   But it’s what you do when you can’t that matters most.  Set new goals and adapt to what you have to work with.  Life goes on. 

Black eyed susans in field
photo by Martin van der Grinten

13
Aug
12

The Only Constant is Change

I’ve found over the course of my fitness journey that the only constant is change.  How we deal with that change makes all of the difference.

We can get all jammed up, or torn up, or even give up, but change will keep coming.  

I used to wallow in change.  It gave me the excuse to eat what I wanted, skip workouts, feel sorry for myself.   Ha…those were the days of backsliding down the slippery slope to set-back!

Learning to keep it together when we want to fall apart is just as important as work-outs and nutrition.

And learning not just to keep it together but how to adapt so that future change doesn’t hit us like a sledge-hammer. 

I’ve learned to separate my emotions from the facts.  Instantly I feel more capable of adapting.  List the facts in black and white and tackle them one by one.

Sure feelings get hurt or ego gets bruised, but change is still coming.  So taking the emotion out and dealing with the remnants makes change a bit easier to swallow.

One of my favorite quotes by Maya Angelou:

If you don’t like something change it.  If you can’t change it, change your attitude.”

 

 

 

 

08
Aug
12

No More Crap Reps

Pull-ups, push-ups.  Give and take.  I’m so stinking close to the perfect pull-up it is not even funny.  What I’ve learned through the process is that I’m about 5# off from getting them both.

I’ve had this terrible habit of worming my push-ups.  I get within 2″ of having my chest to the deck and find myself unable to push out of it.  What does this have to do with pull-ups?  I get my eyeballs at eye level with the bar and then stall, lacking the strength to pull that last 2 inches of my chin over the bar from the dead-hang.  Kipping yes, no problem, but strict pull-ups two inches off. 

Maybe I’m naïve but they must be connected.  They simply must be.

No more crap reps for me.  If I’m worming a push-up I stop.  Even if it means using a harness made out of resistance bands to keep perfect form, I’m doing it.  Crap reps get me further behind.  Instilling in my work bad form & bad habits.  Is it humbling? Absolutely.  Is it necessary? Absolutely.

Letting go of ego enough to recognize your own weaknesses is vital to improvement. 

I tell my friends that want to start CrossFit to focus strictly on the technical part of the movement for the first six months to a year.  No one listens.  We go in and rush more weight on the bar, thinking that some how makes us better.  

Wrong.  

Technique or lack there of will catch up to you.  By then you will have developed bad habits from rushing through the technique to lift heavier.  Then comes the agonizingly slow process of retraining and unlearning.

So I’m a slow learner.  I’m still doing what I need to do to get better.    My mantra has changed to “NO. MORE. CRAP. REPS.”

No matter what the movement is.  Air squats, clean & jerk, snatch, overhead squat, dead lift, push-ups, pull-ups.  No. More. Crap. Reps.

 

01
Aug
12

It Is Not About Them

In the world of weight-loss it’s easy to play the victim.  Blame all of our shortcomings and lack of results on our upbringing, our past relationships, our lack of relationships, our jobs, our family time, our lack of money, and the list could go on for a full paragragh.  In all honesty, it is not about them, it is about you.

You can make valiant attempts to make lasting change, but until you realize that you are ulitmately responsible for your food intake and moving your butt, you are playing victim.  Sure life will give us lemons on occasion and we’ve got two choices, sit and sour along with the juice or make some lemonade.

Today I was heading outside to work-out with a coworker.  As I turned the corner to go down to the locker room I glanced to the left and saw two gentlemen coming into the facility to enjoy lunch in our cafeteria. 

One was suffering from health related issues, I have no idea what, but he struggled to walk slowly with his friend supporting his arm on one side and walking with a cane in the other hand. 

I smiled and nodded as I usually do and as I continued on to the locker room I was overcome with gratitude.  Gratitude that the man had a friend to lean on and walk with and emmense gratitude that I am now healthy.

When I weighed 328# I used to see the obstacle of weight-loss as  chore.  I used to pout when I would have to eat a salad and someone around me would be eating crap, that whole “why me” thing. 

Over time (not overnight) I realized that I was starting to feel better, my clothes fit better and then it got easier.  My mind shifted from this is a chore to this is a choice.  That one little switch changed everything.  The sooner you acknowledge that you are willing to do whatever is takes willingly to succeed the easier this path will become.

Hat Tip: Elements of Your Life

 

31
Jul
12

Roller Coaster

My last post was about having patience to put in the necessary work to achieve your goals. 

I had lunch with a group of friends today and during lunch one of the girls made the comment of “yesterday’s workout made me feel bad about myself last night.”

The irony in that comment is that it was exactly what I was thinking Friday night after having such a great workout on Thursday. 

My conclusion is there will always be something that makes me question myself.  Especially if I desire to grow as an individual.  There will always be triumphs and trials.   It is in the aftermath of the trials that I have the opportunity to experience true growth.

I’ve got two choices, I can sit back on my ego and whine a little or I can dig deep and realize that it makes me better and better.  Do nothing or work on the skills that it takes to get better and better.

Today the workout left me feeling good simply because I finished it and got just a smidge better in the process.  It is taking the time to settle down and realize that with each and every hurdle, I can jump it or walk around it.  It truly doesn’t matter as long as I move forward.

Hat Tip to Wikipedia for the pic!

27
Jul
12

Do You Have Commitment?

“Commitment is what transforms a promise in to reality.  Commitment is the words that speak boldly of your intentions and the actions which speak louder than words.  Commitment is making time when there is none.  Commitment is coming through time after time, year after year, after year.  Commitment is the stuff character is made of, the power to change the face of things.  Commitment is the triumph of integrity over skepticism.” ~unknown

I wish I could remember who wrote this so I could give them credit.  It has been hanging on my bulletin board in my office for years now.   I moved it higher so I could read it daily.  Do you have commitment to your health and fitness? 

25
Jul
12

Leaning on Accountability

Some of us require accountability.  Not someone to police us, but instead a person that knows our intent and that will call us out when we are not holding ourselves to the standard of which will take us closer to our goals.

I have a couple of these accountability buddies.  They know who they are.  

Recently I talked about a goal I had and made the comment to my friend “What if such and such is still there?”.   It took her all of 3.2 seconds to send me a response that simply said “Oh, I didn’t realize we were living in the world of “what if.”

I love her for it.  It was an eye opener of the underlying lack of belief I still carry in some areas.  That just means there is more work to be done on my personal belief system. 

I have another accountability buddy that shares daily meal structure along with pictures of her meals.   We strive for small balanced meals every 3 hours.   I’ve begun to do the same with her.  It keeps my meal plans fresh because I know she will call me out for not having a variety of fresh veggies. 

I also have hard-core friends that never ever need anyone to hold them accountable, they don’t judge me just as I don’t judge anyone else.  It’s not my place.  Weight loss and fitness are a process, that process is different for everyone.

I like having someone to lean on from time to time.  It makes leaning solely on myself much more doable. 

Want to eat cleaner and work harder?  Find someone that will call you out, even if it stings a little.  You’ll be better for it!

24
Jul
12

Community

I love it when I meet new people who are struggling.  This morning I saw a woman walk by my door and as I glanced up I noticed what a pretty dress she had on. 

A little later my boss pushes open my office door and there stands the woman in the pretty dress and she was saying “I knew she was the one!”   Hmmm…

Well, needless to say she wanted to talk workouts.  I love that.  I work for a company with over 1600 people.  When someone says “I knew she was the one” man that’ll make your day. 

Anyway, she was telling me about a recent weight gain, low iron and the fact that she’d been put on medication for it.  She is struggling with her mojo for sure.  Lack of energy, poor diet, etc.

As we talked, she mentioned knowing all about meal-timing etc., and that she wanted to get back in to shape.

My first comment was simply “get back to basics”.  You know about meal timing and working out so the only thing I see missing is community.  I asked her when the last time she hung out with like-minded people? 

It doesn’t matter what you do, whether it’s Zumba, Body Pump, Jazzercise, CrossFit or Running, remember to find like-minded people to do it with. 

Everyone struggles, everyone has an “off” day or even an off week.   Food may be spot on but workouts stink or just the opposite, workouts are great but food stinks. 

In a community though there will be days you will push, pull or drag each other along but that’s the point. 

Do it. 

It’s not always about YOU.  You soon realize that the greatest part of community is what you can offer to another person in the way of support. 

 

17
Jul
12

Getting Fit! Tami Rose

I’d like to take a moment to introduce you to a woman I know.  I met Tami a year ago when she joined the CrossFit Box I attend. 

With her permission, this blog is for her.  To celebrate the victory of consistency with both her nutrition and her workouts.  Tami has made changes that have now become visible results.  No super secret code or plan. 

Clean conscious eating and working out.  I do not train Tami.  She works out at CrossFit Impulse.  She does this on her own with the support of other CrossFit community members, friends and trainers at the box.

For all of you out there struggling, use this as motivation. 

Instead of me saying a thousand words, I’ll let the photo’s do the talking.  Congratulations Tami!

March vs July 2012 Congratulations Tami!!