Archive for December, 2012

27
Dec
12

That Space in Between

Today I find myself sitting in that space between Christmas and New Year’s.  You know, that space where most people sit around nibbling on the goodness left over from Christmas while in wait for the celebration of New Year’s.

For some folks, that space in between is the black hole of every excuse under the sun for throwing months of hard work away with that “I might as well wait (weight) until the new year starts”. 

How about committing to yourself to not waste (waist) these next few days with that mindset.  You know who you are.  Especially those who are totally out of the normal routine.  Trust me, your routine is calling you just as loudly as those left-over treats.  In fact your routine is probably calling you just a tad bit louder.

You know you want to feel good.  So get up and moving.  Throw that crap out, in the trash can, down the disposal, whatever it takes. 

We are brought up not to waste food.  If someone gave it to you, throw it out.  If the person that gave it to you truly knows you and knows what your goals are, they won’t care if you throw it out.  If they get upset, then ask yourself what their true intentions are.   Because trust me, it is your goal at stake.  Not theirs.

This two-week sprint through the holidays is not about moderation.  If you ate treats in moderation for two solid weeks, then really, is moderation truly the ultimate goal?

Get your food cleaned up and get on with your goals.   Goals, you know, those things you set long before the treats of the season started showing up in every nook and cranny.

Get on with bringing your mojo back!  You know you want it!

go after it

 

18
Dec
12

Tis The Season

I’ve noticed several of my friends this week have commented about being unusually stressed.  Holiday shopping, crazy working hours, junk food all around (temptation is a beouch), not to mention holiday parties and celebrations to attend. 

My only comment is “I hear ya and I’m right there with ya!”.

That being said, today I was reminded to remember the reason for the season.  It’s not for all the stuff up there in that first sentence.

It’s for remembering our Savior’s birth and it’s for being with those you love and care about.  Sharing time with them is more important than this gift you put under their tree.  If it’s not, get yourself some new friends but your family, you’re pretty much stuck with them.

Christmas Day is brunch at my home.  My grown boys come and gather around the table with their respective others and we dig in to the totally unhealthy and wonderfully southern foods that we were all raised on.   No diet foods, no special effort to keep it clean.  Just a simple homemade from scratch table full of goodness and gratefulness abounds for one beautiful meal.

Some would say “You are just crazy for doing that!” but I say “It’s the one day of the year when all of my offspring are in the same place, at the same time, enjoying the same tradition we have for years.” I’m good with that.

Remember there is nothing that money can buy you this year that is more important than those surrounding you, YES, even kooky Aunt Olive.   Aunt Olive is a blog for another day.

May you all slow down these next few days and enjoy the hustle and bustle with a cup of coffee or tea, take in the moment and the people and give a hat tip of gratitude for where you are in this life.

Holiday Background

11
Dec
12

Thoughts Become Actions

I’ve read your thoughts become your actions a thousand times referring to a bunch of different topics.  For me, I learned the hard way that to truly change deep down, you much first change your mind.

If you allow doubt to creep in and steep, you will easily set yourself back a pace or two.

I’ve discovered more about myself by paying attention to my negative self-talk than anything else.  Negative self-talk can be so defeating if allowed to go unchecked.  Many, many times I’ve caught myself thinking a negative thought right before I try something new, a heavier weight, a new skill or an old skill I haven’t tried in a while (in most cases because I allowed it to defeat me the first time around).

In 2001 I told myself that I would become a Body-for-Life Champion.  In my mind I didn’t doubt that until week 10 of my first challenge, I had lost 35 pounds from my 328 pounds body.  No-one noticed.  I cried A LOT back then, but I kept going.  Back then I literally obsessed over the finest details and looking back, I’m glad I did.  It forced me to think of what I was doing instead of the negative thoughts whirling around.

After losing the initial 125 pounds, during the process also meeting my spousal unit, I started getting comfortable where I was.  I still wanted to be a Champion, but hadn’t submitted a single packet after having done 3 challenges. 

Then I got side tracked and all of the old issues that I had tamped down really deeply began bubbling up again.  I began backsliding in to the old habits of listening to negative self-talk and overeating.  This went on for years, from 2003 through 2008.  I would gain and lose the same 20 pounds over and over.  I had to start digging down deep in to the baggage chest to make lasting change. 

I realized that I was still listening to plenty of negative self-talk instead of focusing on actions that bring change.

Only then did I become successful and also became a Champion in 2009.

Most people like to sit around and talk about what they want, but only those who truly choose to change actually do.  When you make a choice to change, it becomes a true goal.   Set that goal as your vision and repeat that vision over and over in your mind.  Visualize exactly what you want and get after it.  No matter how long it takes, just keep going.

It’s not something you do because someone else is asking you to.

It’s not something you do because you think someone else will love you more for doing it.

It’s not something that anyone else can derail you from.

It’s about you, what you want for you, and what you are willing to do for yourself.  No crutches, no excuses, no whining.

Focused intent on doing.

Strong

 

05
Dec
12

Don’t Tell Me It Can’t Be Done

And don’t tell my friend Sharon that either.  Sharon and I have walked this journey together for quite some time.  Back in 2009 we spent the whole year encouraging each other via internet.  In October of 2009 we got to meet face to face.  We got to share our excitement and enthusiasm for fitness together with many other friends. 

Over the course of the years since, we’ve gotten together a couple more times.  Since our last get together Sharon decided to set the goal of becoming a Fitness Competitor.  She has since taken the stage twice.

Was her journey easy?  Well of course not!  Was she disciplined?  Absolutely.

I’ve spoken with Sharon countless times and the one word that she has repeatedly used is perseverance.

There have been times along her journey when those who claimed to be her friends attempted to bring her down by making negative comments.  She persevered.  There was a time during a storm when she lost power, she ate her food cold, but she stayed her course.  To some that may seem silly, to her it was following her dream.  Just because something isn’t YOUR dream doesn’t mean it isn’t right for someone else. 

Please share this with your friends who need support and encouragement.  Photos are very powerful.

I’m very proud of this woman to say the least.  Congratulations Beautiful Sharon on a job very well done!

 

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